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R-Rated Self-Care Rant: Take F$%king Care of Yourself!

Thursday, March 10, 2011 by Marianne Elliott

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For the past three months I’ve been co-facilitating a long-distance course in self-care for a group of amazing women. They are the kind of women who build schools in rural Nepal, set up innovative programs to fund pediatric cancer care in Africa and raise hundreds of thousands of dollars to support grass-roots change-makers around the world.

As I’ve talked with these women about what keeps us from making the time to take care of ourselves, I’ve been gentle, supportive and encouraging as they’ve explored their own motivations, doubts and fears.

This week we were talking about how resistant we can sometimes be to doing even the simplest things to take care of ourselves. I shared my own frustration at hearing smart women tell me over and over again that they are too busy (or too tired) to go for a walk or do some yoga. I confessed that sometimes I just want to let loose and tell it straight.

So I did just that. My R-Rated Self-Care Rant, I called it. And they loved it. They asked me to record it so they could play it as their alarm clock in the morning, or have it automatically sound when they’ve been at the computer for more than two hours.

At first I laughed it off. I’m a yoga teacher, after all. I can’t post a recording of myself swearing about taking ‘f$%king care’ of yourself on my website.

And then I remembered that I get the most from my own teachers most when they surprise me with their honesty, when they defy my expectations of them and get so f%$king real that I can’t help but actually hear what they are saying.

So here it is – my R-Rated Self-Care Rant (warning: this is not safe for work if you work within earshot of other people and probably not safe for home if your kids are listening in)

For Stacey Monk and Maggie Doyne: Take F%$king Care of Yourself!

(Just click on the video to play it)

I am afraid there may be more where that came from.

PS: If you missed the free call I did this week on Self Care, Mindfulness and Social Media with Jen Louden, Tara Gentile, Tara Mohr and Bridget Pilloud, you can still sign up here to be sent the recording.

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48 Responses to "R-Rated Self-Care Rant: Take F$%king Care of Yourself!"

  1. Lisa Baldwin says:

    I. Love. You. So f$%king much!

  2. Brigitte says:

    I love you, Marianne.

  3. Just when I thought you couldn’t be any more endearing! I f*cking love this (and you)!

    I really love how you crack yourself up while you’re doing it. Too cute!

  4. Sara says:

    Okay, that was the BEST video motivation ever! No, but really. I’m logging off and shutting the computer down now so I can hit the mat before bed. And maybe even again when I wake up. Must have brain oxygen …

    All best, love! xo

  5. Akhila says:

    I loved this – how cute and funny, and a good stark reminder 😀 I am definitely one of those people who says they’re too busy to do yoga so.. maybe I should take heed 😉

  6. Oh wow. That is amazing. I hope there’s more! I’m passing this along, and sharing with clients who need to hear this message.

    Marianne, you are a f^*(ing wonder!


  7. shana says:

    gee, thanks – i needed that! no shit, really.

    not only wise, caring and beautiful but funny & adorable to boot!

  8. amy says:

    just beautiful! thank you!

  9. Susannah says:

    FUCK YEAH! you know i needed to hear this 😉

  10. Laura says:

    HA tweet the sh*t out of that! works for me!

  11. Tammy says:

    that made me laugh so hard that I cried!

  12. Clare says:

    Making the inner expletives explicit-
    Feck, yeah! *giggle*

    ‘Feck’ is the Irish substitute swear word- the equivalent of soya milk in tea! Used sporadically it can be very refreshing.

  13. Roxanne says:

    I am in love with this. Thank you for the reminder.

  14. cath says:


  15. Jennifer M. says:

    I am going to watch this video once a day for the rest of my life. 🙂

  16. rebecca says:

    AHH! Love this, love you! So true and EXACTLY the reminder I need! Daily!!! 🙂

  17. Mark says:

    You obviously have never been in the Navy. Hopefully, you went and did some more Rant yoga or went for a Rant walk after that brief message from our sponsor, Marianne. 🙂

  18. lu says:

    hands down one of the most awesome things i have ever been told. love it!

  19. jane says:

    I fucking love this too… intending to oxygenate my brain with fucking vigor today.
    fucking thank you

  20. Jim House says:

    I’m not a yoga guy–I am attracted to and fed by your vulnerability and honesty. This post does not seem shocking . . . just seems consistent with you being real.

    Love the comments!

    I guess we all need a reasons to dip into our fringe vocabulary. Am reminded of the poem, “When I am an old woman I shall wear purple . . .” and say f**k a lot!

    And thanks.

  21. Jess says:

    Just… yes. Yes. Thank you.

  22. Kara-Leah says:

    Love it Marianne, especially the way you can’t keep a straight face… and oh so true!

  23. Nina says:

    You are fantastic! This is something we all need to hear every so often! Yes!

  24. gaby says:

    love you sista!!! what a bummer that I wasn’t on the call with Stacey and Maggie. would have looooved to hear the live version. but this is f$%cking great, too! xxx

  25. Susana says:

    Marianne – this is AWESOME!! I did your 30 days of yoga at the end of last year and since then I love reading your posts and interviews. BUT THIS IS THE BEST!! A whole lotta spark. From a yogini in the making – THANKYOU!! xoxox

  26. see how easy that is? more, please.

  27. Sara says:

    Priceless. I love that. I need that! xoxoxxo

  28. Tor says:

    Brilliant! And I loved that you could only be scary-hardcore-military-woman for a few seconds before giggling xx

  29. debra says:

    I am f*cking smiling! thank you. ☯

  30. Swirly says:

    I love it. Sometimes nothing works better than a well placed f bomb. 🙂

  31. Marcela says:


    You are so right. I also find that we don’t take care of ourselves we the become a burden to others, so I think it self preservation is also a form of caring for others.
    And now I’m off to walk on my treadmill 😉

  32. Patt says:

    I’m figuring out my new iPad2 and selected this at random of all things as I searched for the sound button/feature without reading that it was $?!xxx r rated. When I found the sound I could not stop laughing!!! Surprising hahaha a first via the Web and I DO NEED to practice some yoga.


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  35. Alys says:

    Ha! Great rant Marianne! You’ve got me giggling on the inside. X

  36. megg says:

    Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

    I F$%king love you!


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    I can’t believe I JUST saw this!!! Yes! you are the best of the best. i can’t wait for part II

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  42. Sheryl says:

    Best f**king thing I’ve seen all week. Thanks!

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  44. Mary says:

    Ha. You’re too cute. This made me giggle every time (yes, I watched this several times) I watched it.

    Sometimes the f bomb needs to be dropped and you made it cute, which is just awesome.

    Fucking taking care of myself and loving it!

  45. Debbie says:

    I love this. Thank you. Sometimes this is what we need to hear!

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  47. Gene Smith says:

    F$%king wonderful! I almost peed myself laughing.

    And I had just gotten back from a f@$king walk. So, now it’s time to get on the f*%king yoga mat after I send the link to a few more of my f&#king friends!

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