Not a manifesto, just a list of 10 things I’ve learned lately

1. There is an astonishing ease to the things that flow from following your enthusiasm.

2. That ease doesn’t exempt you from hard work, but it does mean you never have to scramble.

3. You don’t always have to put your hand up. If your intention is strong and clear, the people who share that intention will find you.

4. Your belly will always tell you the truth. Listen to your stomach. Seriously.

5. Balance means very different things to different people. For me it means a softness in my belly and an openness in my chest and throat, no matter how ‘busy’ I may be. Balance comes in waves and cycles. It’s not about rigid routine.

6. Everything goes better with tea. Especially if the tea is vanilla roiboos with almond milk.

7. Grace is a comfortable bed you can fall back into, a place of accepting everything – including yourself. Unlike most beds, however, you never have to get out of it.

8. Kindness is one of the most powerful forces on earth. All the more so for how profoundly it seems to be under-estimated by most.

9. Singing, especially chanting, really is a shortcut to bliss. If you don’t think you can sing, I assure you, you can. If I can, you can. I promise.

10. You know that saying “We teach what we need to learn”? So far in my life, it seems to be true. Therefore, I teach the yoga of kindness and ease.

Change-maker interview with Danielle LaPorte

Danielle La Porte. To get an idea of the kind of white hot truth this woman has on tap, check out her latest post, ‘your permission slip from the universe‘. Danielle brings compassion, truth and blazing love to creative entrepreneurship. She’s a feminine powerhouse, a spiritual business advisor, a truth-teller, a mother and a friend. She’s this week’s change-maker. (Photo credit: Anastasia Photography)

1. What is it that breaks your heart? What are you doing about it?

My heart gets broken every day and I don’t want to do anything about it, really. If my heart doesn’t get broken, then I’m asleep or jaded, or worse, indifferent. Bookstores break my heart (they shatter me, really); the homeless guy on my corner who has a pet pigeon; the new mommy riding the elevator with a screaming baby and an armful of grocery bags; Bach; my kid when he realizes that people can do courageous, mean, and amazing things.

2. What fills you with joy?

There are times when I feel like I’m in the center of the center of it All — the heart of the whole messy beautiful perfect matter. It’s beyond words. And when my boy comes up out of the blue and says, “Mama, I just love you,” and bounces away, well…talk about beyond.

3. What do you do to take care of yourself?

I’ve been doing a bit of “work” with a Buddhist Lama and he’s assigned me to recite a particular heart sutra 100,000 times. Since I have no intention of dropping out of modern life and meditating 8 hours a day, this will take me years. And…it’s one of the most profound acts of self care that I’ve ever committed to.

4. This blog is a kind of a watering hole for Saviours of the World in various states of recovery. What words of White Hot Truth do you have for us all?

You have to accept something in order to evolve it. For me, making a difference is more likely to happen from active compassion, than resistance. Even in the worst circumstances, an iota of compassion for everyone involved helps to burn away the mind fog and make room for your intelligence to act.

5. Many of us, especially from the not-for-profit world, are uncomfortable with ideas like brands, marketing, self-promotion and even money. But you say ‘It’s about generosity’. I love that idea and I find it provocative. Tell me more.

Be proud of what you’re giving. Be clear about your intention (and intention counts for so very, very much.) From that foundation you can wave your flag, sell your story, and lead your tribe with conviction and liberty. If you’re not proud, you can’t be as effective.

And a bonus, question 6. You described your Fire Starter Sessions digital book as being for people with an ‘entrepreneurial spirit’. What does that mean to you?

Well, I think most of us who identify as “entrepreneurs” became entrepreneurs because we don’t like being told what to do. And THAT attitude crosses all sorts of boundaries. When you throw in an insatiable appetite to make things happen — to create, create, create — then you’ve got the stuff of art and enterprise.

Danielle’s Firestarter Sessions have been a big hit with everyone to whom I’ve recommended them, and with many others.

“Danielle LaPorte’s passion for her mission leaps off the page, and reading a few chapters of this book will ignite you into action.”

- Gretchen Rubin, author, The Happiness Project

“The Fire Starter Sessions is the new, bad-ass Artist’s Way.”

- Linda Sivertsen, co-author, Harmonic Wealth, and Generation Green

A taste of the fiery goodness

I endorse the Firestarter sessions whole-heartedly, and am proud to be an affiliate for Danielle’s awesomeness. But if you are unsure about taking a leap into the whole Firestarter deal, Danielle this week released one chapter of the sessions as a stand-alone ‘taster’. You can now buy ‘True Strengths and the Metric of Ease’ for $20. I had a personal ‘aha’ moment with the metrics of ease and have been enjoying the ease of following my true passions ever since. You can get this chapter by clicking the image below.




We did it!

(Photo montage by Epic Change)

If any of you have read my ‘Zen Peacekeeper Guide to Twitter‘ you’ll know about Mama Lucy and Stacey Monk, they are the example I give of people using Twitter to do good.  If you don’t know anything about Mama Lucy, then read this inspiring interview with her now so the next part will make even more sense.

Well, that campaign was just the latest in a series of amazing efforts that Stacey Monk and her partner at Epic Change, Sanjay Patel, have made to help make Mama Lucy’s dream come true. Today I got an email from Stacey reminding me that sustainable positive change is possible when we work together. With three years of support from Epic Change and all of us, Mama Lucy’s school is now self-sustaining.

Ever since I first came across Stacey and Mama Lucy I’ve known that there was a reason I needed to know them. This is it, they are creating a new model of development partnership – one in which both partners are treated with equal respect and in which the goal is always to support grass-roots, sustainable change.

Please read on to be inspired (and please read all the way to the end for a very special request from Stacey).

“We did it.

When we arrived in Tanzania last month, we found a new classroom waiting for the sixth graders who will move on to their final year of primary school next January.  On our final day in Arusha, we opened the school’s first library, built from the gratitude so many shared last November during TweetsGiving.  Nearly 1,000 parents, students and villagers came together to open the building.

While we were there, we also invested $40,000 USD to build a home that will soon house over 100 children on Mama Lucy’s campus in Moivaro village.  Construction has begun and the home, which will be built from the love so many shared last Mother’s Day during To Mama With Love, is expected to open this year.

In short, we did it.  What we set out to achieve with Mama Lucy less than three short years ago – a primary school with seven classrooms, a school bus, a computer lab, library and a place to make sure that every child who attends has a nurturing place to call home – is now a reality.  Over 2,000 people have invested over $150,000 out of love, hope and endless gratitude to make it happen.  While there’s always more to be done, and Mama Lucy already has a secondary school in her sights, we’re confident that her growing tuition income from over 400 students, and the supportive community she’s built in Tanzania and across the world, will make it possible for her to move her vision forward for decades to come.

Paying It Forward

Over the next few weeks, we’ll be sharing stories, photos & videos from our trip on the Epic Change blog and, soon, we’ll announce our plans for TweetsGiving 2010 and the next Epic Change fellow(s) who will follow in Mama Lucy’s footsteps.

Who will be next?

I hope you’ll subscribe to the blog to make sure you’re the first to find out.

Since Mama Lucy has already repaid nearly $17,000, those of you who have previously contributed will now be able to see your hopeful investment paid forward to another remarkable changemaker somewhere else on the globe.  We’ve now proven beyond any doubt that when we invest the very best of ourselves to amplify voices that need to be heard, together we can create Epic Change.

Praying for One More Miracle

Yesterday, my partner, the co-founder of Epic Change and my dearest friend Sanjay learned that his 37-year-old brother Raj has lung cancer.  I know from experience the incredible power that our shared love and hope can have, so I’m asking you to keep Sanjay, Raj, his wife Rita, their mother Savita and their entire beautiful family in your prayers.

On days like today, when I’m reminded that the universe can sometimes seem so capricious and even cruel, perhaps it’s best to reflect on how kind she can be too when we join our hearts together to make it so.”

10 tips for long haul travel, Zen Peacekeeper style

If you live in New Zealand, traveling anywhere other than Australia or the Pacific means a long-haul flight so I’ve regularly flown for up to 35 hours for the past three decades. For many years I flew almost every week (don’t ask about my carbon footprint, I’m still working it off!).

On my most recent trip (a paltry 20 hours to get to California) it occurred to me that what now comes naturally to me is a nightmare to many others, so I thought I would share some Zen Peacekeeper tips for long-haul travel.

1. My number one travel tip is to be kind. Every one else is tired and uncomfortable too. Nothing soothes the collective nervous system like a little kindness. Smile at the staff and thank them. Let the agitated man go ahead of you in the queue. Offer to help a mother with her baby. Trust me, it’ll make you feel better too.

2. Always come prepared (mentally and practically) for delays. When delays happen, and they will, remember tip number one: kindness goes a long way. Likewise, if you check your luggage, always come prepared to lose it. Anything essential for your visit should be in your carry on, together with at least one change of underwear, a clean top, something to sleep in and your basic toiletries.

3. Long haul travel in economy class is uncomfortable. There is no way around it, we all have to go through it. The only way I know to prepare for it is with yoga, meditation or any kind of practice that teaches me to stay with my discomfort without judgement. You get through 15 hours of sitting in economy class the same way you get through five minutes of an uncomfortable hip-opener, one breath at a time.

4. Learn the security rules and stick to them. None of the people you are dealing with invented the rules, nor can they bend or change them for you. Holding up the queue by objecting, or even just failing to observe the rules, is inconsiderate and unnecessary.

5. Always carry a large, warm scarf. Airplanes and airports are often cool and if you are delayed you may want to nap. Even if I’m not napping, wrapping myself in a shawl makes me feel immeasurably more comfortable.

6. When I was a little girl having trouble sleeping, my mother told me that it doesn’t matter if you can’t sleep as long as you lie very still with your eyes closed and breathe deeply. She was a genius, obviously, because she not only got a quiet, still child through the night, she also got a rested child in the morning. These days, I apply this rule to long haul flights. If I can’t sleep, at least I can allow my mind and body to rest. Stressing about the lack of sleep only makes me more tired at the other end.

7. If you fly a lot, consider investing in noise-canceling head phones. At a minimum, wear ear plugs. Airplanes are noisy. Both will help with no. 6

8. Likewise, I highly recommend that you get a really lovely, comfy eye mask. Even if you are not sleeping, your eyes need a rest, especially from the dry air in the airplane cabin. Resist the temptation to watch movies all the way. Slip on an eye mask and listen to some relaxing music, a guided meditation or even an audio book. Give your eyes a break.

9. On flights of more than six hours, get up and stretch at least a couple of times throughout the flight. I know that security rules discourage you from hanging around the toilets, but doctors still advise regular stretching. I tuck myself in to the emergency exit over the wings and do some forward bends, standing hip-openers and gentle back bends. If I’m stuck in a window seat then I get all yogi on it and contort myself into a few stretches in my seat.

10. Anyone who knows me won’t be surprised that my last travel tip is to carry a thermos and a few of your favorite herbal tea bags and ask for hot water once you get on board. As soon as I land I find somewhere I can get a big cup of steamed soymilk or almond milk. Warm liquids are deeply comforting and they help me get grounded after all that movement.

I have other tips, but they all really boil down to this: be kind, be flexible and be prepared for the unexpected. Long haul travel has taught me more than almost any other experience about how I can cause or ease my own suffering.

One breath at a time, Grasshopper, we cross the oceans and the continents one breath at a time.

On purpose. On track. On fire.

Wow.

So this is what happens when you forget about making plans and just keep committing to your deepest sense of purpose?

You suddenly have more opportunities than you know what to do with, more energy than you thought possible and more collaborators than you ever dared dream of?

I’m riding a wave of purposeful, but completely unplanned, enthusiasm at the moment. My initial contact with Off the Mat, Into the World one year ago has grown into a role as the Regional Leader for Off the Mat in New Zealand and Australia.

This is a role that comes with buckets of support and no agenda. It’s completely up to me to discover what our yoga communities in New Zealand and Australia might want to do with this amazing organisation.

So, if you are a yogi or an activist in New Zealand or Australia who is excited by the idea of using the power of yoga to inspire conscious, sustainable activism and to ignite grass roots social change, please get in touch and let’s see how we can work together.

I don’t know about you, but I’m excited.

I’ve also been invited to participate in the European Summit for Global Transformation this October. If you’ve been reading here for a while then you’ll recognise the names of some of the other people who have also been invited: women like Mama Lucy, Stacey Monk, Letha Sandison, Maggie Doyne and Jen Lemen.

These women are my people and it gives me chills to think that we might all come together in Amsterdam this October. I can only imagine the things we might make happen!

The summit is not a sit-and-listen kind of group. It’s about connection, collaboration and action.

This is what happens when you get a group of committed people together to share resources, pool knowledge, engage in conversation and move forward together. The European Summit inspires, connects and creates breakthrough actions for its participants – entrepreneurs and activists worldwide.

Our specialty is building bridges between people of diverse backgrounds with varied skills, shared interests and mutual admiration.  We create and facilitate productive working relationships. Passions are rekindled; commitments spoken aloud, new actions made not only possible but probable.

I hope I can be there. And I’d love it if you were there too. Registrations are now open. If you feel any sense of calling to be there, please sign up.  If the voices of fear and doubt try to shout you down, please know that you are not alone. We all feel those fears. It’s when we can move past them that we can really begin to be of service in the world.

When I received my invitation to attend my first thought was “but I’m not doing anything important enough to be part of this.” That’s the voice of fear. That’s the voice of my old belief that I’m not good enough.

I have all the love in the world for the scared little girl who sits behind that voice, but I don’t let her take the reins of my life any more. I’m learning to trust that the work I’m here to do is bigger than me. I’m learning that my fears and doubts are completely natural, but they have no place getting in the way of my service in the world. I’m learning to trust and follow my enthusiasm.

That voice of fear was loud this morning when I thought about my book. I was suddenly seized by the conviction that if my book is published, I’ll expose myself as an idiot and a fraud. Oh yes, Fear was showing up this morning.

Thank goodness for faith. Faith, to me, means trusting that if my intention is clean and I am committed to serving the greater good, then I’ll be guided to where I can be of most service. Maybe that will include a published book. Maybe it won’t.

And yes, maybe it will involve people seeing me in all my human frailty and fallibility.

But when I remember that all of this is bigger than me, I’m no longer afraid. I show up and I serve as best I can. And I know that it is enough.

Yup. I’m on purpose. I’m on track (which means nothing more than simply showing up, without any agenda other than love). I’m on fire.

PS: The European Summit for Global Transformation is looking for sponsors. They run the entire show with volunteers but there are some costs involved in the actual venues, and in helping get some amazing grass-roots change-makers to the summit. People like Mama Lucy and Maggie Doyne. If you or your company would like to sponsor this fantastic event, you can find out more here.

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